Feeling invisible in my marriage

Marriage is not as simple as a walk in the park.

There will be ups and downs, and you will have to find a way to solve things.

We sometimes just think that things will always be the same every day. There’ll be arguments and misunderstandings, and we’ll feel hurt or simply confused at some point. This doesn’t mean that you need to consider leaving your spouse, but it’s a phase that will eventually pass.

There are a few things  you can try out if you ever feel invisible in your marriage.

Stop having unrealistic expectations

Some people get into marriage while having a picture of what it’s going to be like, which are unrealistic expectations of how it will be with your spouse. In all of that, you’ll be more focused on the good than the possibility of the bad. The people around us, who are married or have been before, tell us about their experiences and that only makes things worse.

What you should know is that you cannot compare your experience with someone else’s. You should not force things between you and your spouse to be like that of your friend’s marriage. This is how we lose our spouse, and the marriage fails.

Reflect on your life and marriage

Take some time and just analyse your life and what you’ve been doing ever since you got into marriage. Be honest with how you feel because that’s the only way you can get the answers you need. Don’t try to convince yourself otherwise whereas you know what the issue is. How are you feeling? Are you stressed most of the time and why is that? How can you take care of yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically?

Do something that will make you feel better; it can be running, meditating or even going to a dancing class. Be honest about your feelings to your partner and if giving each other a break will help, do so.

You should always remember that you have a life outside of your marriage. Make something of yourself.