How to deal bullies

Bullying is a very distraught and emotionally draining experience.

Majority of bullying is experienced at an early age from school peers and at recreational spaces. Adults experience bullying in the workplace and at social clubs. Bullying has negative effects on a person’s emotional state and disrupts their day-to-day life. Here are ways to deal with bullies:

Stand up for yourself

The emotional distress from the bullying may make this difficult for you, but it is important that you show the bully that they have no power over you. Bullying is about power. The bully tries, by all means, to take away your power and make you feel timid and inferior. Showing them that you are confident and not scared, defeats their purpose.

Talk to someone in authority

It is understandable if you cannot stand up for yourself against bullies. Find someone who has authority over all of you and speak to them about your experience. This should make the bully change their behaviour or face the consequences with authority.

Walk away from the bully

When bullies approach you, walk away from them. Walking away denies them the power to upset and make you feel inferior.

Find social support from friends and family

Surround yourself with people who love you as a reminder that you are cared for. This will ease the stress you get from bullying. When in a school or work setting, surround yourself with people who care enough about you to help you counter negativity from bullies. This will also show the bully that you are happy and cared for.

Change your perspective about them

No one is born a bully. Bullying is a behavioural manifestation of insecurity, or even abuse. There is a chance that the bully is, in fact, being abused and they are bullying others to gain power and control over their internal pain. Look at their bullying behaviour as human brokenness. Happy people do not hurt others but, hurt people do.

Remember that failure to deal with bullying will only make it worse, and negatively impact your well-being.