How to deal with grief

Dealing with grief is one of the hardest things anyone could go through.

Dealing with the loss of a loved one.

Death of a loved one is never easy, it often leaves us feeling confused, shocked, and depressed. Although loss is a natural part of life, no one can really get used to it. It is a disheartening experience.

The grieving process is important to overcome the sadness experienced from loss. It sets us on a journey to healing. In her book, On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross proposed the five stages of the grief model: Denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The five steps don’t occur in a linear pattern. The author proposes that people spend a length of time on each step as they try to grapple and fathom their loss.

Grieving is different for everyone. People going through grief may adopt the following to help them cope with the loss of a loved one:

Talk about it

Talking is probably the first step of therapy. Find support from family and friends and reach out to them to talk about how death has negatively affected you. Isolation and withdrawal will only disrupt your healing process and prolong depression. Social support is important to help us get through the tough times in life.

Allow yourself to grieve

You are experiencing your current feelings for a reason. You’ve just lost your loved one so suddenly and it pains you. Your feelings are a valid response to your tragic loss. You have to allow yourself to go through every emotion to aid your healing process. Crying or being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness, it is an indication that you are human and you are in pain. Pain is normal. Don’t deny yourself the opportunity to feel it but rather, allow yourself to process it and feel it instead. You don’t have to be strong for anyone.