We spend much of our childhood listening and obeying our parents’ wishes and instructions.
For some, this happens from the early stages of adulthood, and for others, a lifetime. The instructions we receive from parents and guardians serve as guidance. Guidance is important for the development of our moral compass, decision making, emotional intelligence, etc. Our decision-making is always judged against what we have learned from our parents/guardians. We receive approval or rejection based on our decisions. Conversely, our decisions are meant to please our parents/guardians.
As we grow up and begin to be exposed to other possible realities of life, we begin to compare them with ours. Discrepancies that arise make us question whether or not we’ve been taught correctly. Take for example, a child who was raised with Christian values but identifies as transgender. The child will grow up to believe the gender binary values instilled in them, and try by all means to counter his true transgender identity.
Doing what you want is both good and bad for you. When we make the conscious decision to do what we want, we gain autonomy and control of our lives. Ultimately, our lives are our own to live. Making a decision based on what the next person expects, is not an ideal way of living. The failure to meet their expectations of you will leave you feeling disappointed in yourself.
On the contrary, doing only what you want may be bad for you and others around you. Our actions have consequences. Doing what you want is good for you only if doesn’t hinder other people’s rights to freedom. For example, imagine someone who decides to shoot innocent kids at school because they want to do what they want. Or someone else burns down a park because they just want to do what they want. This mindset may be good in some instances but bad in others.